2. When you lose, don't lose the lesson. Don't they say as one door closes, another window opens? Who out there hates losing??I so hate losing but well I wouldnt say I'm a sore loser but lets be honest..losing sucks!!But if it makes us learn a lesson and better ourselves or our approach/method then its a good thing right?But still losing sucks..lol... 3. Follow the three Rs: Respect for self ,Respect for others and Responsibility for all your actions.
Could I define myself as a risk-taker? Yes, I have taken risks with my jobs but them coming into my emotional life..then I have to say, this is one thing I'll have to learn and be willing to take...I fear taking risks for those who will end up disappointing me, so I guard myself well but it seems the Dali Lama knows better than me no?
Self-respect is very important,it determines the relationships we will allow ourselves to have, take pride in being who we are and love ourselves. Respect others and you'll be respected and not get unwarranted disrespect (though there are some individuals out there who seem to thrive on disrespecting others!!). Responsibility for all your actions - who doesnt initially blame some-one else when something goes wrong?I have done it a few times, but when I then re-evaluate the situation I realise that somehow Shona could have had a part to do with it.(even a teeny bit...heey its hard accepting I was wrong!..lol)My mom always said when you point the finger at some-one, there's three fingers pointing right back @ ya...4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
Difficult to accept at the time it happens but when we do look back we do realise that things did work out for the better after all!5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
Now the Dalai Lama must have written this one for ShonaVixen..lol..breaking the rules properly is always fun...learning the loopholes included??LMAO6. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
I have learnt this one, and thats why I'm able to shout out 'I have great friends'!We talk it out, yes we disagree but we deal with it and even laugh all about it!7. When you realise you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
Owning up to say I'm sorry, hard as it is to swallow my pride and raise my hand and say those words, I'll do it. Will also correct that which needs correcting.8. Spend some time alone every day.
I love my own company and always make sure I get some 'ME TIME'. Before I go to bed, I pray, fill in my Gratitude Book, and just think and love me some me!9. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.
Change is good, so long as we dont compromise who we are, hard sometimes when you're in foreign country as there are challenges of wanting to fit-in but so longs as we have our principles straight and never compromise our values..its all gravy!!10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
Silence is golden so they say right? Keyword here for me is 'SOMETIMES' as its hard for Shona to be silent, I always want to have my say but when I do stay silent be very afraid...seriously..lol..11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll be able to enjoy it a second time.
I guess I'm trying....12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
Praying together helps and communicating = open door policy applies13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.
Hmmm, now this is easier said than done...its difficult sometimes to just argue about the here and now without reference to some scene in the past...'But you did the same thing last time', or 'You said that last month'...let go, let flow, deal with the present deed,*note to self*14. Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
Thats why I love Blogville, we learn from each other, we share that which we know, we ask our inner most questions and some-one will come to the rescue. Lesson shared for me was from MamaBomboy:'Dont tell Bomboy to stop playing with the wok or he'll come after you with it'..lol..and my gurl Emilia's diet regime and she shares great recipes too...now that's commendable15. Be gentle with the earth.
Recycle, recycle, recycle!!16. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.
It dont mean spend too much money on holidays, I'm sure even in our own countries, there are places we still havent been. Heey I was in Luton 2 weeks ago..lmao...17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
Wow...this couldnt have been much more truer, but then again this is the Dalai Lama. I know some females who are with men not because they love them but because they feel society expects them to have a man in their life, they feel they need to have a man...love is the best foundation.18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
I just made a list of stuff I had to give up along the way and on this road that I am on ...Thank you God for bringing me thus far. I do advise you all to do this especially when you feel like you havent accomplished much, you're doubting your success and all!!19. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.
I hope this wasnt too long...again!!I havent been feeling too well this week, guess its a bug or something..Shona needs some TLC..lol.. Mz Dee thank you for the award, I would like to say I love you all my great friends here on Blogville (i dont have to name names coz y'all know who u are!!)and u know I dont say 'I LOVE YOU' lightly, so guys you're all fabulous.my gurls Lolo,TeeTay,Audzz n my sisters Mimsy, Alexa & Tutti Frutti I am blessed to have u in my life !!Ok hope y'all are doin fine my blogville familia and as always Happy Sexing xoxo