Tuesday, 10 February 2009

The Essence of Trust

I trust you, i love you, i want you, i need you
baby i breath you, never leave you,
life wouldn't be the same without you
I Trust you, i love you, i want you,
i need you baby, i breath you, never leave you,
life wouldn't be the same without you,
Noooooo No No No No
Trust - by Keyshia Cole (Listen to it, its on my playlist!)

A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter, "Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river." The little girl said, "No, Dad, you hold my hand.""What's the difference?" asked the puzzled father."There's a big difference," replied the little girl, "If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go." In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold us.
Does any-one see anything wrong with those lyrics from Keyshia's song?(Please do listen to all of it if you can before commenting, song number 3)When I listen to music, I go beyond the beat, the hook, the chorus - I try to get the essence of the song and the lyrics and I see so many wrong things on so many levels with that song...lol..Anyway back to 'Trust', there are some people who have a default 'trust' setting and I don't..honestly..you have to gain my trust, break that whole bond and I cut you off, don't matter whether you're male or female, friend or frenemy you'd be as good as dead to me! Please don't misconstrue this post with 'self-trust', because I do trust myself and my inner circle of familia and amigos. Now my dearies, how do you handle trust?Do you trust'blindly'. How then do you differentiate 'blind' trust and foolishness?And broken trust?
Love all, but trust a few. - William Shakespeare

PS: Please don't come here on February 14th and wish me a Happy Valentine's Day, if you've never passed through and wished me a Happy Saturday before why should you come this Saturday??Yes, I don't endorse that day...every flipping day should be special, so for those who will be carrying their flowers, big teddy-bears(btw who likes those??..sorry to those who do..lol)PDAs, acting like its the most romantic thing home-boy has done..don't look my way..I'll dash water @ you, as I'm going to be out and about!!!..LOL...as always Happy Sexing xoxo

43 comments:

bumight said...

FIRST?????????????

bumight said...

I guess (in retrospect) i'm a trusting person by default, but u have to work to keep the trust.

as for valentine's day, look on the bright side. its a saturday. so u can just lock urself in ur house and u wont be subject to the flower-carrying, chocolate-bearing, PDA showing people at work, school or on the tube! LOL!

Good Naija Girl said...

Sorry, at work so I can't listen to the song.

When I first meet someone, I take them at face value and assume they are trustworthy; it's something I got from my dad. However, I am always alert for instances where my trust might be betrayed. I've watched the tenderhearted folks in my life (my mom comes to mind) get used enough that I try not to let it happen to me. It does happen, but not as much as it would if I hadn't seen it happen to friends and family.

I'm an "assume the best but prepare for the worst" type of person I guess. You don't have to earn my trust but if you want to keep it, then don't betray it! That being said though, some have said I'm too quick to forgive, but again I think it's because if someone is giving me what appears to be a genuine apology, I take it as such.

Audzz said...

Ooh trust - interesting topic! Loving the post btw & i'll comment once i've listened to the song propa!
For reals why go all out, spend on someone jus come some friggin somebody says so.. i dont expect nada. Everyday should be filled with gestures of love and friendship NOT jus 14 Feb. Enjoy your saturday anyway shamwari. M sure i often wish u a good weekend, lol

Funms-the rebirth said...

someone cant just tell me to trust them and i'd listen, theres def something wrong with the song, can someone just say trust me, and will? heck no, i used to trust easily but i learnt. you have to work on the trust, tho i expect everyone to trust me without a fuss. It takes time for me to really really trust someone..... i trust only myself and i have a few people that r in my inner circle that i really do trust....

as per V day, we r in the same boat. i think i'd stay home cuz i cant stomach all the stupid ass romantic people on the road

Afrobabe said...

Whatttttt???

We wre messing around together n u didnt tell me u were updating...will repay it oh...

miz-cynic said...

since i like to see the best in pple...i take pple for face value and give them the benefit of doubt but woe betide u if u betray tht trust

miz-cynic said...

i trust easily but woe betide u if u betray tht trust just once!

LusciousRon said...

I trust myself only and I trust others a little. I don't expect anyhting so I don't really get dissappointed.

My plans for saturday are yet to be solidified so until then... I will just be.

Afrobabe said...

Hmmm trust...Personally I run from any man that says "trust me"...this days I find myself extremely suspicious of people especially men..you will have to proove urself trustworthy...
and I shall be coming here on satuday...if I am not too busy or when I come up for air...xoxo

Rita said...

I am still in the school to learn how to trust, but I trust a few very deeply (if there is anythig like that)

badderchic said...

looks like Im not the only one who dont send feb 14th gleeeeee!

Temite said...

hehehehe Vixenites.
Bumight - dont you have anatomy to study for.
I Trust noone. I dont even trust my family or friends. Why would you trust someone human? I dont get that. Humans are fallible and they will fail you. why set yourself up for dissapointment.
That song is way over emotive.

MilesPerHour said...

It takes alot to crack my exterior. I don't let just anybody into who or what I am.

The closest people will have my trust, but only them.

K said...

I trust people but its earned my friend and once its lost you will always see me keep one eye open ...that's my rule.

Heh happy Monday through to Friday and extra special Happy Saturday and Sunday babe! I so agree with you about V day.... Valentines Day (V.D)= Venereal Disease...anybody notice that?? LMAO

fantasy queen said...

i'm definately not a trusting person, i always see a question mark when it comes to love...

i've listened to the song over and over again, still trying to figurs it out.

~Sirius~ said...

Trust...I trust very few, Never total trust as we are all humans...........and it helps me live a stress free life.

Happy Valentine's Day Shona!!!!! LOL!

And I'll be back on saturday...............he he(If i get time off)

@ Kooks, Venereal Disease in deed!

Vimbai said...

Methinks the lady doth protest too much, just for that i am gonna come and wish you a very Happy Valentines Day come Saturday, hehehe.

As for trust, bra when its gone, its gone...hard thing to get back.

Robyn said...

ok.Love me that song.ill download please note:legally.
Ummm so Vals day

ShonaVixen said...

@Bumight- Well done hon!!You get a Special Vixenite t-shirt!! I wish I could just lock myself inside BUT have a date with the girlfriends planned started with breakfast at Pancake House, Lunch, then Dinner and to end it all clubbing..and I'll be seeing those mooshy, cuddly PDAS all day, have my water ready..lol..

@GNG - I really wish I was like you hon, when meeting people, I always don't trust them..lol..i actually expect their bad side to come out wiv time..and do i forgive quick?..I forgive them and forget them too!!

@Audzz - and since you're my very good friend, I look forward to days of pampering and being spoilt! Love you too boo xoxo

@Funms - I'm just like you girl. Rule Number 1 - Don't trust any-one, especially those who say trust me!!

@Afro - well m vexed, you refused to tell me the name of your church so i can come and worship with you!!God will forgive you!!..lol..

@Miz-cynic - hmmm would never want to see that bad side of ya hon..lol!!

@LusciousRon - I so hear you hon!!Always keep one eye open!!

@Rita - There is something like that, coz I operate likewise!

@badderchic - yes hon..me n u!!

@Temite - Thank you girl, i was listening to it and I thought this too much now...slow ur role Keyshia..lol..

ShonaVixen said...

@Miles/hr - I hear you dude!!

@K - LMAO @ VD...LOLLLLLLL...GURL YOU ARE CRAZY...LOL!!!!!!

@Fantasy Queen - I'm just like you hon!

@Sirius - Yeah come over on Saturday, actually I beg of you to come here..lol!!

@Vimbayi - Hesi chimoko!..lol..OK you and Sirius better be here on Saturday...lol!!

@Robyn - Its ok if Limewire is your friend too...lol..

Angel said...

I give people the benefit of the doubt to start with and the trust grows..

I know my friends would say im too trusting but im working on it.

Happy Saturday...

ibiluv said...

enjoy your saturday

stay indoors

Bondgirl said...

I got's to tell Black that Shona is not a fan...he will love you more...not more than me of course ...lol

Keyshia has issues, You saw how much ish I went through getting Black to trust me again...that did not happen over night...gotta work for it. Hesi mwana wangu Uribho here?

LMAO... Happy V day baby...xxxx

ShonaVixen said...

@Angel - thank you hon!!You have a great SATURDAY too!!

@ibiluv - you too hon!!

@Bondgirl - Do tell Black!!And who knows maybe i'll a chanel wallet or even just the ear-rings..lol!!Hesi amai ndeipi yenyu?Ini ndiri kenge..or do you guys say ndiri bwino?imi muri bwanji?..lol..

Aphrodite said...

Ha ha ha ha
lol@dashing water at them.

Seriously tho, i dont really get the hype about that day.

Aphrodite said...

Trust ko, trust Ni...
(trust is overrated!)

ablackjamesbond said...

Trust is so vital to life. Learning to trust and having the courage to trust is actual a selfish act. It is something we can't live without.

Irrespective of how many times how trust may have been betrayed, our survival and sometimes happiness will depend on us trustng again.

Ms Sula said...

On Trust, I generally like to believe that people have good intentions...but I have been cursed with a very strong intuition that I have grown to trust wholeheartedly. So although I extend the benefit of the doubt to every Dick, Tom and Harriet (meaning I don't believe they are "out to get me"), intuition ruins a few folks' chances upon first meeting. Can't help it. And so far, intuition has not let me down... ;)

Re:Keyshia Cole songs in general. First of all, I'm not the biggest RnB fan there is, especially contemporary RnB. So needless to say that the tortured, whiny sound of Ms Keyshia is difficult for me to appreciate. Then, at what point does she finally gets it and just moves on? The lyrics you showcased smells like codependency at best, desperation sprinkled with stalker attitude at worst.

And, oh! Happy Valentine's day in advance!! :P

OluwaDee said...

I dont even trust myself, I can go gaga sometimes.

Since its friday & not sat, I am allowed to say, "happy Valentines Day shona."

Rose said...

Trust is very essential,it's the foundation of everything and anything good.

On trusting people,i think people have to earn trust,as trusting randomly can cause alot of things,unwanted to happen,alot of secrets to be exposed.

Okay,we would do this like this,first of all,happy saturday in advance Shona,Happy valentines day!!Lol.xo

Enkay said...

Trust, just like faith, is very basic to life and human interaction. That's why you walk into your living room and plop down on the nearest sofa without doubting that it would carry your weight!
Truth is, even though the sofa has carried your weight for the past 5 years, there's no guarantee that it's capable of doing so today. You just go ahead and take your chance.

I'm generally trusting of most people. I take you at face value and give you the benefit of doubt with a generous supply of caution of course! Trusting without caution I'd say is blind trust. We are all human after all!

Phew! I've spoken more words than I intended. My first time here. Lovely blog!

K said...

LMAO ....GONGO ASO...ZIM Remix

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VYlgfDcd2xw

Geebee said...

How's Val's gonna be now? Meanwhile, you have been tagged on my blog. Check it out.

Original Mgbeke said...

I love that key key cole song, it's actually one of my faves on the album. I no fit listen to am yet sha...

Ummm, I think I trust based on my instincts about the individual so it all depends.

Funms-the rebirth said...

hey gurl, been a min...... how r u

Uzezi said...

trust doesnt come easy. but i believe u fnd it easier to trust people when u find the calming peace that comes from being in the presence of God always. Cos when you walk with God always, you wouldn't fall in with fraudsters and people who take advantage of your innocence.

rethots said...

Wow!!! the power of trust is simply awesome.

Parakeet said...

ahn ahn sis stop hating! lol. So how was ur v day? Hahahaha.

Vera Ezimora said...

LOL @ not "endorsing" Valentine's Day. You're lucky I didn't read this post sooner. If I had, I woulda passed by several times and wished you a Happy Valentine's Day. Wetin you for do anyway???

Buttercup said...

Im using my phone now so i cant listen to the song.

I trust very easily..im trying to be more cautious cause when i hurt, i really HURT. Im not even talking bout relationships now..

Buttercup said...

I wonder if my comment posted..my phone is acting up..mscheeew

theicequeen said...

the quickest way to ensure that i'm wary of you is to ask me to trust you..for why? hehe...apart from my fam...i trust like two people..and even then not completely..i trust my besty..and he didn't earn that overnight..it's years (5!) of going through a whole lotta shit together..so trust has to be earned mehn...and it is the best thing when it's there...