Tuesday, 6 May 2008
No Definition ...No Dating
This weekend, due to incidents that some of my girlfriends went through, it seems its now near to impossible to date in 2008! It seems there is an unwritten code of this 'No Definition' thing going on, where you are unsure of the next step, whether you are actually a couple, if you can see other people or just generally where you stand. Yes undefined status can be ok for those looking to be B.U.D.D.Ys and all but for some-one looking for a relationship it can be emotionally tiring. So should you ask that question 'what's going on'? which however is normally responded to with the answer 'lets just go with the flow'!Now what the f*ck is the darn FLOW! Getting some booty on the regular?Going on dates?Heck, this is never defined too!! And how about the ones that vibe with a sexy, suave, debonair, so-good-you-could-call him 'Chocolate' type of brotha, you all hook up on the first date, you've been called stuck up and old skool so you let your inhibitions go on that first date. There's plenty of tonsil tennis action, he moves every single nerve in you, kisses so endearing and wishing they could last, and you sense the same, this action is reciprocal or is it just in your mind?Because after that first date, nada phonecalls, text messages, emails, facebook poking i mean zilch communication is happening here! So you then have a sista wondering was she then 'too forward' or did she say something wrong during that time they spent together? I'm really starting to wonder what the hell is going on the heads of the men in London? I have run out of trying to explain their behaviour to questioning girlfriends..shuut i grew up in a household full of boys BUT this i cant decipher! But one thing i do say to my girls is, he wasnt worth shit!! It aint no male bashing but just the honest truth. Nothing seems to be what it is now. And if i ever meet a man who's going to spit that lame 'Go with the flow' line i'mma show him the darn flow..lol..But seriously i doubt if its just London males it seems its our era, any guy btwn the ages of 26 - 36yrs, and he black, professional and 'single' has some issues. Why did i say 'single' because thats actually another posting on its own! I have always said music speaks to me and i felt this song by Mario actually would go with this post! But i say, every sista out there, if you're unsure of where you stand with a guy, then you're probably not dating! New motto..No Definition = No Dating..lol..Moral of the post being? Communicate, straighten it out from the get go, thus avoiding unnecessay self-doubt and self-examinations!